Affirming is baseline here

LGBTQIA+ Affirming Therapy in Oklahoma City and Across Oklahoma

You should not have to come out to your therapist and then spend three sessions explaining why that is a big deal.

Affirming therapy means you walk in and we already get it. We are not going to ask you to educate us on basic terminology. We are not going to treat your identity as the problem to be solved. We are not going to be weird about it. You are a person who came to therapy because something in your life is hard right now, and your identity is part of who you are, not a clinical curiosity.

Every therapist at Ala Therapy Collective is LGBTQIA+ affirming. That is not a specialty add-on here. It is baseline.

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What Actually Makes Us Different

Affirming, inclusive, safe, welcoming. Almost every therapy website in Oklahoma says the same four words. Here is what is actually true here instead.

  • Our entire clinical team is social workers. That means we look at your whole life, your relationships, your community, and the systems you are living inside, not just what is happening in your head.
  • Several of us are neurodivergent affirming, and some of us are neurodivergent ourselves, so we are comfortable with masking, sensory needs, and the overlap between neurodivergence and queerness.
  • We work with religious trauma routinely. It is not a rare specialty we dabble in.
  • We can talk about identity, gender, sexuality, politics, relationships, and the systems around you without treating any of it as separate from your mental health. It is all the same conversation.

Who We Work With

Shylah Ridgway, LCSW, LICSW

Shylah Ridgway specializes in LGBTQIA+ clients alongside ADHD women and uses EMDR.

Taylor Hendricks, LMSW

Taylor Hendricks works with LGBTQIA+ clients, neurodivergent teens, and late-diagnosed ADHD women. She is calm and observant, and has evening and Sunday appointments available.

Michi Medley, LMSW, A-CAS

Michi Medley, LMSW, A-CAS works with LGBTQIA2S+ adults and young adults, with a particular focus on clients carrying intergenerational trauma, family-of-origin chaos, or chronic illness. Evening and weekend appointments available.

Demetria Bonds, LMSW

Demetria Bonds, LMSW works with LGBTQIA+ clients, including polyamorous and ENM relationships, and brings a warm, steady presence to grief and loss, burnout, and the life transitions that knock you sideways.

Every therapist on our roster is affirming. If you are not sure who is the right fit, reach out and we will help you figure it out.

What We Work On

Whatever brought you to therapy. Anxiety, trauma, relationships, identity, the weight of navigating a world that is not always safe. We work with all of it, and we do it without making your queerness the centerpiece unless you want it to be.

Common Reasons LGBTQIA+ Clients Reach Out

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, nonbinary, queer, questioning, asexual, or still working out the words for it. Here you start from understanding, not explanation.

Religious Trauma and LGBTQIA+ Identity

Plenty of our clients grew up being told their identity was something to repent for, by a church, a family, or a whole community. That does not just go away when you leave. We work with the guilt, the fear, the grief of losing people who said they loved you, and the slow work of sorting out what you actually believe from what you were handed. You do not have to defend your faith here, and you do not have to defend leaving it. Where you land is yours.

Madison Johnson and Kenzie Langford focus on this work.

Madison Johnson, LCSW Kenzie Langford, LCSW, LICSW

A Note on the Current Climate

We know things are heavy right now. If you are an LGBTQIA+ person navigating anxiety, fear, or grief related to what is happening politically and culturally, that is real and it belongs in the therapy room. Whether you are worried about legislation, healthcare access, safety, family relationships, or simply feeling exhausted by the constant conversation surrounding LGBTQIA+ lives, those concerns deserve space here. You do not have to minimize it or explain why it affects you. We get it and we are not going anywhere.

You should not have to vet your therapist for safety before you can even start.

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Virtual and In-Person

We offer virtual therapy across all of Oklahoma, including Oklahoma City, Tulsa, Edmond, Norman, Yukon, Broken Arrow, Stillwater, and Enid, and in-person sessions in Oklahoma City. If you are in a part of Oklahoma where being openly queer feels unsafe, virtual therapy means you can access affirming care without having to out yourself in a waiting room.

We Take Insurance

We are in network with most major insurance plans and we made it easy to check. Plug your insurance in directly on our website and find out what you are working with before you ever have to talk to anyone.

You Deserve a Therapist Who Already Gets It

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Frequently Asked Questions

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  • Absolutely not. Therapy is a completely confidential, private, and judgment-free space. You do not need to be out to your family, friends, coworkers, or anyone else to begin working with us. We will move entirely at your pace, and your safety and privacy are always our top priorities.

  • You don't need to have a neat label for who you are to start therapy. Questioning your gender identity or sexual orientation can feel overwhelming, confusing, or even exciting. This is a safe space to explore those feelings, untangle societal expectations, and figure out what feels most authentic to you, with zero pressure from our team to land on a specific answer.

  • Yes. Thanks to secure, HIPAA-compliant telehealth, we are able to provide virtual therapy sessions to anyone residing anywhere in the state of Oklahoma. As long as you have an internet connection and a private space, you can access affirming care from the comfort of your own home.

  • Living in an environment that doesn't feel safe or supportive can cause a lot of chronic stress and isolation. Virtual therapy can be a vital lifeline if you live in a rural or conservative part of Oklahoma. Together, we can work on building coping strategies for "minority stress," setting firm boundaries, finding community, and protecting your mental well-being.

  • Yes, explicitly. Our practice is dedicated to providing gender-affirming care. Whether you are navigating social, medical, or legal transitions, dealing with gender dysphoria, or just looking for a therapist who understands your lived experience without you having to explain the basics, you are welcome here.

  • Yes, we accept a wide variety of insurance plans. We partner with most major providers in Oklahoma to make care as accessible as possible. Navigating insurance can be stressful, so our team is happy to help you verify your mental health benefits and co-pays before your very first session.